Drag 101: Dos and don’ts for attending a drag show (2024)

Drag at its heart is performance, spectacle, satire, style, and celebration. It has been called a mirror that reflects society’s expectations as it playfully turns them on their ear. Once considered solely the idea of men and women adopting the clothes and affectations of the opposite sex for performance, drag now is a blurring of genres, an evolution of artistry that speaks to the falling away of society’s gender norms.

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Illinois State University, home to one of the state’s largest annual drag shows, is also the alma mater of a celebrated member of the drag community. Sharon ShareAlike shares insights for those new to drag performances.

“The drag scene used to be mostly just gay men dressing up like drag queens. Now there are tons of different kinds of drag and people who do drag,” said ShareAlike ’94, MFA ’98. It’s been 27 years since she made her debut at The Bistro in Bloomington, Illinois, and ShareAlike noted more than the audience has changed. “I perform all over in all types of venues with all types of people in the crowd—fairgrounds, churches, restaurants, bowling alleys, private home parties, street fairs, and the list goes on. Drag has become very mainstream and for me, that is a good thing.”

Dos and Don’ts

The main point of attending a drag show is to have fun and support the performers. Here are some basic dos and don’ts for a drag show audience.

Tipping – There is a culture of tipping performers at drag shows, some say it is a nod to the underground traditions of drag that usually meant little (to no) pay for the performance. Do tip by placing the bill loosely in an outstretched hand for the performer to grab. When tipping, do not shove the money or attempt to place it on the performer.

Runway – The stage giving way to a catwalk allows the performers to reach into the audience. Do approach the runway for tipping and cheering. Do crouch down, if possible, to make sure you are not blocking others’ view of the performance. Do not step on to the stage unless expressly invited by a performer. The runway is reserved for performers.

Voices Do cheer, whistle, clap, holler, and sing along during a performance. Voicing approval is definitely encouraged, especially during a fierce performance or a dramatic costume reveal. At drag shows that encourage novice performers to take to the stage for the first time (like the Pride Charity Drag Show at Illinois State), support for the performers is paramount, meaning do not loudly express criticism to performers (or do so at your own peril, as the audience tends to be very protective).

“It’s exciting to see where the art of drag will travel generation after generation,” said ShareAlike, who is the mother of her own House of ShareAlike where she mentors and inspires up-and-coming drag performers. She tours with the “drag children” in the Sharon and the ShareAlikes show. “It feels good to see the younger generation picking up the drag torch.”

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Touch – Keeping agency in the hands of the performer is key to a fun evening. Though the costumes may be mesmerizing, ShareAlike instructs the audience to keep a fourth wall between themselves and the performer. Do not touch the performers. Reaching out to touch is “only when encouraged by the performer,” she said.

A love for—and respect of—drag performance still keeps ShareAlike gracing the stage, more than 20 years after she captured the Miss Gay Illinois USofA crown. Though her nationally known drag enhancer designs are seen on RuPaul’s Drag Race and featured in the Lady Gaga film A Star is Born, she said the stage will always be home. “I just love performing and entertaining my audience,” she said. “I do hope that drag will always involve hard work, professionalism, respect, and love for each other and the audiences.”

The annual Pride Charity Drag Show arrives every spring at Illinois State. Follow the Pride RSO for details.

Drag 101: Dos and don’ts for attending a drag show (2024)

FAQs

Drag 101: Dos and don’ts for attending a drag show? ›

Do not initiate physical contact with a performer. Don't initiate non-consensual physical contact with anyone, for that matter. That goes for other audience members! Drag performers put hours into their makeup, hair and outfits so please don't grab or touch!

What should you not do at a drag show? ›

Do not initiate physical contact with a performer. Don't initiate non-consensual physical contact with anyone, for that matter. That goes for other audience members! Drag performers put hours into their makeup, hair and outfits so please don't grab or touch!

How much cash should you bring to a drag show? ›

“If you want a better show, $20 will get the best drag brunch you've ever seen in your life.” When calculating how much money to bring to brunch, the Los Angeles-based drag queen Meatball suggests a baseline of $2 per drag queen per performance number.

What to wear when attending a drag show? ›

Dress Code Advice

All that to say: there's nothing you have to wear, and there's not much that's off-limits, either. Wear what you want, and wear what you want other people to see. That's the spirit of drag. Tailor your look to the type of drag show you're going to.

Do you need to tip at drag shows? ›

Front row has to tip

If you sit in the front row, you're in the Dollar Zone, so bring some dollars. This is non-negotiable. Drag is expensive and time-consuming, so when you bring your hot little self to the show and push your way to the front, tip appropriately.

How to behave at a drag show? ›

Drag entertainers are people. Never behave in a way that makes the performers feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Treat drag queens with respect, and always ask for consent before touching them or taking a picture. 3.

What are rules at drag strip? ›

All vehicles participating in the drag race must pass safety and technical inspection. All drivers must be the registered owner of the vehicle. All drivers must be 21 years or older and have a valid driver's license. Drivers must provide their own fuel.

Can straight people go to drag brunch? ›

Patrons come from all walks of life, queer and straight, young and old. I even saw a toddler being lifted from his stroller into a high chair. I wonder what I'd be like if I'd grown up around drag queens.

What happens during a drag show? ›

Typically, a drag show involves performers singing or lip-synching to songs while performing a pre-planned pantomime or dancing. There might also be some comedy, skits, and audience interaction.

How much do drag people make? ›

How much does a Professional Drag Queen make? As of May 22, 2024, the average hourly pay for a Professional Drag Queen in the United States is $32.38 an hour.

Can I take my kid to a drag show? ›

Age-appropriate content

Yule says some adult drag shows and communities might have more “flirty” or sexual performances, but parents can ensure their children are attending age-appropriate events. If there are song lyrics or dance moves that a parent is uncomfortable with, it's important to have a conversation.

What does dress in drag stand for? ›

Drag dates back at least to Shakespearean theater, when only men were allowed to act and therefore had to play the roles of women. The term “drag” is likely an acronym for “dressed resembling a girl.”

How do you dress up drag? ›

Choose tops with wider shoulders, longer sleeves, and lowered waistlines for longer torsos. Wear high heels. Nothing makes your legs sexier than a pair of high heels, but they're hard to find in big sizes at generic stores. Cross-dressing websites really come in handy here.

What not to do at a drag show? ›

If you ask a drag queen for change mid- performance, God help you because I won't. Don't shove cash into performers clothes… unless they direct you to do so. The correct tipping form is cash in hand, arm extended towards the queen; not in your mouth or stuck to your sweaty body.

Is it rude not to tip a tour guide? ›

Basic tipping etiquette says, yes, you should tip your tour guide. There are exceptions if your specific tour experience includes gratuities or you simply didn't have a good time, but in general, tipping your guide at the end of the tour is customary in the U.S. and Europe, though it's much more common in the States.

What makes a good drag queen? ›

Be beautiful, be funny, dance, or have incredible costumes. The key to drag is to make people happy and spread joy to the world.

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