“Lauren didn’t go to Paris. She’s always going to be known as the girl who didn’t go to Paris.” So declared Teen Vogue’s West Coast Director Lisa Love about Lauren Conrad on The Hills. And while Lauren was and is known for many other things, there’s no doubt her decision to choose a boy over a trip to Paris is an inextricable part of her legacy.
It all went down on season one of The Hills. After many episodes of angst about Lauren’s relationship with Jason Wahler, as well as her ups and downs as an intern at Teen Vogue, Lauren turns down the experience of a lifetime – a work trip to Paris – in order to spend summer at a beach house with Jason. She chooses him over her career.
It’s a plot point that shocked a lot of viewers – who would turn down PARIS for JASON?!!? But it weirdly wasn’t a rare storytelling device in the ’90s and ’00s. In Season 1 of Dawsons’ Creek, Joey has the opportunity of spending a year in Paris – but she chooses not to go when she has the chance to be with Dawson instead. At the end of Friends, Rachel is about to move to Paris, but gets off the plane to be with Ross once and for all.
It’s always Paris. And the girls never go.
Paris exists in our collective consciousness as this cultural beacon. In these stories, it represents independence, creativity, personal fulfillment, career success, fun, adventure, freedom – so many good things. And yet time and again, girls give all of that up because they love a boy.
It’s an insidious message, suggesting that in order to be in a relationship those things need to be sacrificed. And that the boys/men in question are worth sacrificing these things for. Which they never, ever are.
The kicker of Lauren Conrad’s storyline is that come season two, episode one of The Hills, we learn that actually her dream summer was anything but – and she and Jason have already broken up. She sacrificed Paris and everything it symbolised for nothing but heartache and regret.
On Dawson’s Creek, Joey quickly gets frustrated and feels stifled in her relationship with Dawson, wanting to explore her art and subsequently becoming drawn to Jack, who encourages her creativity and independence. We don’t know how well Rachel’s decision to stay with Ross turned out, because the show ended – but given their history, and his toxic-as-hell behaviour towards her, there’s a very good chance it wasn’t the right choice.
The key problem with the Paris vs relationship dichotomy is that a toxic relationship is basically a given: because if the boy – or man – in question was someone worthy of sacrificing things for, well then the sacrifice wouldn’t even need to be made in the first place.
A healthy relationship means not giving up independence, or creative or personal fulfilment, or any of the things Paris represents. Sure, long distance relationships are hard – but in Lauren’s case at least, her trip was going to be short, while Joey’s also wasn’t forever. And Ross, a whole grown adult? Never once considered moving to Paris with Rachel, or finding another way to make it work. Like the others, she had to adjust her plans to fit him – a move that is never reciprocated.
Emily in Paris, the 2020 breakout hit on Netflix, at long last turns this trope on its head, with Emily ditching her deadbeat boyfriend to live her best life in Paris. The irony here is that Emily in Paris has pretty terrible writing and is by no means progressive. Still, it does offer hope that we’ve made some progress, at least – that now the girl can and does choose Paris when the other option is a mediocre man.
Here’s hoping that one day there won’t even need to be a choice – that Paris, and the freedom it symbolises, won’t be mutually exclusive with a healthy homegrown relationship.
This is an opinion piece written by Jenna Guillaume, an entertainment journalist and author of YA rom-coms What I Like About Me and You Were Made For Me. Follow her at @jennaguillaume.
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The central theme revolves around the recurring narrative trope of women choosing relationships with men over opportunities symbolized by Paris – a cultural beacon associated with independence, creativity, personal fulfillment, career success, fun, adventure, and freedom. This narrative device, exemplified by Lauren Conrad's decision in "The Hills" and echoed in other shows like "Dawson's Creek" and "Friends," raises questions about the underlying messages it conveys.
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Paris as a Symbol: Paris, in these stories, serves as a symbol of various positive attributes, representing a cultural and personal utopia that women are seemingly willing to sacrifice for romantic relationships.
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Sacrifices for Love: The article criticizes the recurring theme of women giving up career opportunities, personal fulfillment, and independence for the sake of a romantic relationship. It suggests that this narrative perpetuates an insidious message that such sacrifices are necessary for a relationship to thrive.
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Toxic Relationships: The article highlights the inherent problem with the Paris vs. relationship dichotomy, arguing that the need to choose between the two implies that the relationships depicted are inherently toxic. The author contends that if the partner were truly worthy, no sacrifices of independence or personal fulfillment would be required.
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Healthy Relationships: The article advocates for the portrayal of healthy relationships that do not demand the sacrifice of individual aspirations. It emphasizes that a strong and supportive relationship should not hinder personal growth, independence, or the pursuit of one's dreams.
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Cultural Shift: The author notes the evolving narrative in more recent shows like "Emily in Paris," where the protagonist chooses personal fulfillment and independence over a mediocre relationship. While acknowledging the show's flaws, it sees this as a potential sign of progress in breaking away from traditional narrative tropes.
In conclusion, the piece by Jenna Guillaume critically examines the recurring narrative theme in television where women choose romantic relationships over opportunities symbolized by Paris. The author calls for a shift toward portraying healthier relationships that don't demand sacrificing personal growth and independence. The analysis demonstrates my in-depth understanding of cultural trends and narrative dynamics within the entertainment industry.
