No law prohibits unmarried couples from staying together, still hotels refuse (2024)

Can a woman stay in the same hotel room with a man she is not married to or vice versa? Seems an outdated question in this day and age? Not exactly, says the hospitality industry.

When six students from Pune, four boys and two girls, decided to set out to see Kerala in October last year, they hadn’t bargained on being told there are no hotel rooms available for unmarried couples.

"We hadn’t done any advanced hotel booking as this trip was planned on an impulse. We directly approached three hotels, but they denied us rooms saying they did not rent rooms to unmarried couples," one of the students told The News Minute.

Do hotels have the legal authority to deny rooms to unmarried couples? No, say lawyers and an official of the Hotel Association of India.

"There is no law that prohibits unmarried couples from staying together in hotels. Choosing to stay together is a personal choice and falls under freedom of movement, which cannot be restricted," says senior advocate Sudha Ramalingam.

The Hotel Association of India (HAI), the umbrella organisation that oversees over 280 hotels and resorts across the country says there is no such stipulation. "We are not aware of any such rules," says a HAI’s spokesperson, Bharat Bhushan.

The Hotel Association’s official stance seems to be in denial of the accepted practice.

Why do we call it an accepted practice? Check this fine print of booking conditions set out by a leading online travel portal Cleartrip.

No law prohibits unmarried couples from staying together, still hotels refuse (1)

"The hotel reserves the right of admission. Accommodation can be denied to guests posing as a 'couple’ if suitable proof of identification is not presented at check-in. Cleartrip will not be responsible for any check-in denied by the hotel due to the aforesaid reason."

Cleartrip, in an email to The News Minute, confirmed their policy saying, "These are standard hotel policies passed on to us directly from the Hotel, that we publish for the knowledge of customers making hotel-reservations via our website".

MakeMyTrip also has the same policy.

The denial by hotels prompted us to check out if it was necessary for couples to be married, before they ventured to travel together.

"Hello. Hotel ABC."

"Hi. I want to book a room for two adults."

"Sure Ma’am. Please let me check for the availability."

"Yes please."

"Hello, we do have a room available. You want a room for two people, right?"

"That’s right. We are two people, my male friend and I. We are not married though. I hope that won’t be a problem?"

"Sorry, what?"

"My male friend and I will be staying together. Will that be an issue?"

The News Minute contacted various hotels across India to know whether they had an issue with an unmarried couple sharing a hotel room. And it was not just hotels in Kerala that had a problem with a "Mr and Miss" check-in.

The answers to our attempts to book rooms ranged from absolute refusal to obfuscation.

"Sorry, but we do not allow unmarried couples to share rooms in the hotel."

"Errr… Mmm… I will have to check with my senior."

"Male friend as in? Family member? Or cousin?"

"So you’ll are two people with individual id cards but are unmarried and want to stay in a room together? Please leave me an email me at hotelxyz@notokay.com"

"Yes, that won’t be a problem as long as both of you carry id proofs."

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The obvious assumption emerging out of the refusal by hotels to allow unmarried couples to share rooms despite no official guidelines appear to be a case of moral policing. While live-in relations were considered taboo for several decades, in 2013, India’s apex court had sought to de-stigmatise relations outside matrimony by ruling "Live-in or marriage-like relationship is neither a crime nor a sin though socially unacceptable in this country".

At times though hotels rent rooms to unmarried couples, some ask for couples to sign in as 'Mr. and Mrs.' in the hotel register. Hoteliers say it is a case of playing safe than sorry.

"There are no specific rules laid down by the government about renting a room in a hotel 'to a male and a female who are unmarried'. Hotels that have such rules, mostly are unsure about renting rooms to a man and a woman who are unmarried. If the couple is caught engaging in illegal activities, the hotel will also fall into some major trouble. It is to avoid such a situation, that hotels may include such a policy," explains K Ramamurthy, Secretary, of the Bruhat Bangalore Hotels Association.

When asked whether married couples were incapable of carrying out "illegal" activities, Ramamurthy said "this is a topic where several arguments are possible. A man and a woman, who are unmarried, staying together in a hotel room are also not considered a part of our custom. For what purpose does a man and a woman, both unmarried, want to live in a hotel room?," adds Ramamurthy.

While there are legal ways of tackling written rules, the unwritten reasons for refusal, citing administrative discretionary powers, are far more challenging. For now, the only guaranteed solution to avoid being left room-less while on a holiday is to check in advance if your hotel is likely to chaperone you and your partner.

This is an updated version of the original piece which was published on The News Minute on November 24, 2014.

No law prohibits unmarried couples from staying together, still hotels refuse (2024)

FAQs

No law prohibits unmarried couples from staying together, still hotels refuse? ›

Yes. It is perfectly legal. There is no written law which prohibits couples (unmarried for not) from staying in hotels. It is the however the “unwritten” and prevalent societal constructs which has led to dating, unmarried couples etc.

Are unmarried couples allowed in hotels? ›

There are no laws that prohibit the stay of unmarried couples in the hotels. It is completely a personal choice and falls under freedom of movement and the same cannot be restricted.

What is the meaning of unmarried couple friendly hotels? ›

It means people with local ID cards and unmarried couples are allowed.

Do you have to be married to book a hotel? ›

No, there is no law that prohibits unmarried couples from staying together or checking-into a hotel.

Why local ID is not allowed in hotels? ›

It is safe to say that a majority of local ID holders looking to book rooms in their localities are unmarried couples. Though there is no law that denies a room to unmarried couples, due to social norms and moral policing, hoteliers may refuse them rooms in fear of putting their reputation at stake.

Can my boyfriend stay at my hotel room? ›

Yes it's perfectly okay to stay in a hotel room, or anywhere else with your boyfriend if you both want to do that.

Can I get a hotel with my girlfriend? ›

Can I stay with my girlfriend in a hotel? Yes, you definitely can stay with your gf in a hotel. There is no such rule that stops you stay in hotel together. May be some hotels ask for you ID to check you guys for your good.

Do you have to be a couple to stay at couples resorts? ›

Couples Resorts accommodates adults only, couples only, and guests must be 18 years of age or older to book and stay at any of our resorts.

Can a single person go to a couples only resort? ›

Adults-only resorts will have a wider range of guests, whether you're traveling solo or going on holiday with a group of friends. You can meet other solo travelers, couples, singles or groups.

Can I stay in a hotel with my 18 year old boyfriend? ›

A: Legally, yes. Because you are 18, you are legally able to enter contracts, including the rental of a hotel room. A hotel may choose to rent a room to you if they like. There is no law against an adult occupying a hotel room with a minor (per se).

Should you pay for a hotel the night of a wedding? ›

Who Pays for the Wedding Night Hotel? When it comes to who pays for the wedding night accommodations, there really are no rules. The couple's parents may opt to pay for the hotel room, or another family member or friend might cover the cost as a wedding gift.

Can you book a hotel with a card not in your name? ›

You can book a hotel room for someone else using your credit card as long as you list that person as the guest on the reservation. The person whose hotel room you book with your credit card will need to provide a photo ID when checking in, along with a credit card that has their name on it for incidentals.

Do hotels need your legal name? ›

It is entirely legal to check into a hotel under a different name. The hotel may need confirmation of your actual identity but they will adhere to the name that you have registered in when booking your room. Whether you book your hotel by telephone, online or in person, it is possible to remain anonymous.

Can a hotel refuse a local? ›

Accordingly, under common law, hotels must accept guests unless there is a reasonable or non-arbitrary reason for rejecting a guest.

Why do hotels run your ID? ›

Background checks are intended to help prevent fraud, improve security, reduce risk of damage and avoid crime. Some hotels also need to collect ID details of their guests to comply with local laws or regulations.

Can you get into a hotel without ID? ›

Hotels, airlines and the TSA all have procedures in place to assist passengers who have lost their IDs. By being proactive, having alternative forms of identification, and working with the proper authorities, you can still make it to your destination — even without your ID.

Can you have someone over at your hotel room? ›

Generally yes but the hotel may require you to register your guest (i.e., provide identification).

How do I spend time in a hotel with my boyfriend? ›

Great Romantic Ideas for Date Night at a Hotel with a Jacuzzi
  1. Turn your hotel room into the romantic restaurant.
  2. Slow dancing to soft romantic music in the background.
  3. Enjoy a romantic dessert in bed.
  4. Share a bottle of champagne in a jacuzzi.
  5. Relax in a jacuzzi with your lover.
  6. Enjoy a romantic breakfast in bed.

Is it okay to go to a hotel with your boyfriend? ›

It is okay to go to a hotel with your boyfriend as long as both of you are comfortable with it and feel that it is a safe and healthy decision for the two of you.

Can a male and female share a hotel room? ›

If it is a professional relationship, then it may be more appropriate to book separate rooms in order to maintain professionalism. However, if both parties are comfortable with sharing a room for convenience or cost-saving purposes, then that could be an option as well.

Can you book a hotel and someone else stay? ›

Booking a hotel for someone else is definitely possible. It's always a good idea to add their name to the reservation and to utilize mobile check in if you are not physically present when they arrive at the hotel.

Can I go and meet my friend in a hotel room? ›

Hotel policies typically prohibit guests from having visitors in their rooms for safety and security reasons. Additionally, it is important to respect the privacy of other guests staying at the hotel by not inviting people into your room who are not registered as a guest.

Why are some resorts couples only? ›

A couples only resort is the perfect place to meet other like-minded couples! Couples Resorts are home to entertaining bars and serene hangout spots that are perfect for meeting new people. From watersports to delicious meals – there are plenty of activities you can get up to with new friends.

What do couples do in love hotels? ›

As the name suggests, the main purpose of love hotels is to provide couples with a room to spend some undisturbed time together. The rooms are equipped according to their purpose with large double beds, a television offering erotic programs, a nice bathroom, etc.

Can singles go to couples swept away? ›

No kids allowed (ages 18 and up only). Couples Swept Away is an adults-only resort by design. Children--and singles, for that matter--are not welcome.

Is Secrets resorts for singles? ›

Are Secrets Resorts for couples only? No, Secrets Resorts are not just for couples. While they are adults-only, singles, friends, groups, and families with adult children are all welcome here.

Can two people stay in single occupancy? ›

No, unfortunately it is not possible for someone to sleep over in your hotel room without paying. Hotels have strict policies about who can stay in their rooms and require payment for all guests.

Why do some resorts say adults only? ›

The term “adults only” means that there is an age restriction to enter the resort. Most of these resorts consider the age of adulthood to be 18 years old and therefore put the restriction as such. If you are wanting to bring kids, babies, or anyone below that age into the resort you will not be able to.

Does everyone in a hotel room have to be 18? ›

Varies by Hotel

While some hotels may allow individuals under the age of 18 to book a room, others may require guests to be 21 or older. It is worth mentioning that age restrictions for booking a hotel room are often in place to protect hotels from potential legal liability.

Will my boyfriend 18 and I 17 be able to check into a hotel ourselves? ›

Most hotels require that all guests be 18 years of age or older and have valid identification to check in. Additionally, many hotels also require an adult over the age of 21 to accompany any minor under the age of 18 who is staying at the hotel.

How old do you have to be to stay in a motel with your boyfriend? ›

In general, the minimum-age requirement to reserve a hotel room is 18, with some locations in the U.S. allowing guests to be as young as 16, while others require guests to be at least 21. Because people under 18 years of age are considered minors, many hotels do not want to be liable in case of a problem.

Should the bride sleep with the groom night before the wedding? ›

The big decision lots of couples are asking themselves is whether to spend it together or stick to tradition and sleep apart. It really is entirely up to you. There isn't a rule that says you have to but here's what's most important: that you relax. You'll want to rest up so you're totally prepared for your wedding.

Who pays for wedding night hotel? ›

Traditionally, guests are responsible for paying for their own hotel rooms, it's not an expense that comes out of the couple's wedding budget.

Who pays for the wedding night? ›

You might be aware that the bride's family is expected to cover the majority of the wedding day costs, while the groom's family pays for a variety of extra activities, like the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon.

Can a hotel run your card without permission? ›

The bottom line

Hotels will typically get your authorization to place a hold on your card for your stay at the time you check in. They don't need to notify you every time you are charged.

How long can you stay in a hotel without paying? ›

If you do not pay what you owe by the time the 14 day period ends, the landlord may start an eviction against you. The hotel or motel owner can also ask you to leave by giving you a notice.

What happens if you don't pay hotel bill? ›

State and Country Specific Laws

For example, in California, leaving a hotel without paying is considered a misdemeanor punishable by up to six months in jail and a $1,000 fine.

Do hotels ID all guests? ›

Hotels are legally required to keep a record of all guests staying in their rooms, including their name, address, and ID information. This is part of the hotel's duty to maintain a safe and secure environment for all guests and comply with local laws and regulations.

How to stay at a hotel anonymously? ›

Whether you book your hotel by telephone, online or in person, it is possible to remain anonymous.
  1. Choose a pseudonym. ...
  2. Use cash to ensure that you leave no trace of your hotel visit. ...
  3. All hotels will have a privacy policy. ...
  4. Find a hotel that you feel comfortable in. ...
  5. You must give an address where you are contactable.

Do hotels ID every guest? ›

In the United States, it is standard practice for hotels to require identification from both people renting a room. This is done in order to ensure that all guests are accounted for and that the hotel has an accurate record of who was staying in each room.

Why would a hotel not allow local guests? ›

"You're on a vacation, you're living here, grandma and grandpa, all your aunts and uncles come over to visit, then you have 20 people in the room and you have fire codes, and it's a safety issue. So, many hotels choose not to rent to locals because it is a safety issue," she said.

What is hotel discrimination? ›

Hotel Discrimination: Knowing Your Rights. It is illegal for a hotel to discriminate against any guest on the basis of race, color, religion, national origin, or disability. According to Pollard, the most common type of hotel discrimination he sees is racial discrimination, followed by religious.

What happens when a hotel scans your ID? ›

Home address, credit card information, and other personal info are very serious and must be protected. ID scanning gives an accurate account of all guests checked in to their hotel room. This means you know who should be in their room and you will know when they check out. ID scanning can also save information.

How strict are hotels with IDS? ›

Hotels usually require government-issued identification to verify the identity of the guest and confirm that they're legal for check-in. If a hotel employee finds a fake ID, they can seize the card and inform law enforcement.

Can you show a picture of your ID at a hotel? ›

Additionally, some hotels may accept a digital copy of your ID, such as a scan or photograph of your passport or driver's license. However, it's important to note that not all hotels will accept these alternative forms of identification, so it's always best to check with the hotel beforehand to make sure.

Can I pay for a hotel with cash? ›

Yes, you can pay for a hotel in cash. Most hotels require a credit card for the initial booking and may also need it for potential incidental charges. Even if you plan to pay in cash, it's best to check the hotel's payment policies beforehand, as some may not accept cash or require a credit card deposit.

How old do you have to be to check into a hotel? ›

Be Prepared to Show ID: Most hotels require guests to be at least 18 years old to rent a room, but some may require guests to be 21 or older. Regardless of age, be prepared to show a valid form of identification, such as a driver's license or passport, when checking in.

Do hotels have ID? ›

Hotels ask for ID to ensure the safety and security of their guests. It is a way to verify that the person checking in is actually who they say they are, and it helps protect against fraud or identity theft.

Can 16 year olds stay in a hotel together? ›

Generally speaking, minors aged 17 or younger must be accompanied by an adult aged 18 or older when staying in a hotel. That being said, some hotels have a more lax policy and will allow a group of minors aged 17 or younger to stay in the same room as long as there is an 18-year-old present.

Can you stay in a hotel with someone? ›

Hotels generally expect guests to notify them if they are bringing someone else back to their room. This is because the hotel needs to know how many people will be staying in the room and what type of occupancy rate should be charged for that night.

Can a hotel employee date a guest? ›

“Typically there is something in the handbook that states you should not be fraternizing with guests or employees, because of what could happen. You're in an environment with beds and liquor, which creates a challenge,” says Dr. Bagnera. If a guest asks you out for a date or drink, “Respectfully decline.

Can a 17 year old stay with an 18 year old in a hotel? ›

Agree with edinem, your "friend" is 18 and is therefore considered an adult, so it doesn't matter what age you are. If i were you I'd take some ID with you - particularly if either of you looks a lot younger. As hotels are private businesses, they can set their own rules. I would just ask them directly.

Can a 17 year old stay in a hotel alone? ›

Occupancy

Children aged 16 or 17 years will be permitted to stay in separate room(s) under the responsibility of the parent or guardian and the parent or guardian must also stay in the hotel at all times the children are within the hotel.

Does Holiday Inn allow 17 year olds to check-in? ›

You must be at least 18 years of age to reserve a room and check in to our resort.

Can a 15 year old stay in a hotel by himself? ›

No, a fifteen year old cannot stay in a hotel room without an adult present. Hotels typically require that all guests be at least 18 years of age or older and have valid identification to check-in.

Do hotels allow 3 adults in one room? ›

3 people would be ok staying in one room, if you book a room with 2 double beds and share it, all depends on your budget. The room I stayed had a king bed and a sofa, but the sofa wasn't large enough for an adult to sleep.

Can two people stay in single hotel room? ›

A standard hotel room typically has a maximum occupancy of two guests. This is because the room usually contains one or two beds, which can accommodate up to two people. Some hotels may allow a third guest to stay in a standard room, but there may be an additional fee for the extra person.

Can you have 2 people in a 1 person hotel room? ›

What happens when two people stay in a hotel room reserved for one? Most hotels don't care if a 2nd person shares the room. Hotels have occupancy limits, usually a maximum of 2 or 4 to a room. This is fire code.

Do hotels check guest ID? ›

A hotel background check usually means that hotel employees check the photo ID and credit card details of each guest. Traditional hotels usually do this on guests' arrival, which keeps guests waiting in the lobby rather than letting them go straight to their room.

Do hotel staff sleep at the hotel? ›

In the United States and other developed countries, it is rare for hotel staff to sleep at the hotel they work at. There are some limited exceptions, however, for owner operators of hotels and some maintenance staff. In other parts of the world, the practice is quite common.

Can a guest sleep in my hotel room? ›

yes. Basically you pay for the room. If a friend comes to visit and ends up stayin the night ….

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