The Financial Pros and Cons of Marriage—Gay or Straight | Abacus Wealth Partners (2024)

Marriage is a blessing, or is it? Conflict over money and finances is one of the primary reasons marriages fail. Untangling the finances of a married couple can be an extremely complicated and costly process. With the successful passage of marriage equality, the narrative of my LGBTQ+ clients has shifted. What was once, “How do we plan since we can’t get married?” has become, “Just because we can, does that mean we should?”

The financial ramifications of marriage impact almost every aspect of your financial plan, including taxes, retirement, budgeting, insurance, and more.

So let’s explore the financial pros and cons of marriage – gay or straight.

Five Financial Benefits of Marriage

1. Tax Savings

Married couples who file their tax returns jointly may qualify for higher tax deductions and credits than single filers. For example, single filers have a standard deduction of $13,850 but couples enjoy a standard deduction twice that at $27,700. If you find yourself itemizing your taxes, the decision around this may not be as straightforward, so consult your accountant or financial advisor for a closer review.

Deductions aside, married couples may save on taxes given that income tax brackets double for couples in all marginal tax rates (except the highest bracket at 37%). For example, the 32% marginal bracket begins at $182,100 for single filers while starting at $364,200 for couples filing jointly. This marriage “benefit” is often most helpful for couples with a large income disparity between spouses.

This recently played out for a same-sex couple of ours trying to understand the tax benefits versus costs of tying the knot. The lion’s share of household income was made by one partner at $425,000, where the other partner earned $80,000. We found that filing jointly as a married couple would save them over $40,000 in Federal taxes annually versus filing separately as single filers. Armed with this information, the couple said “I do” and saved thousands on taxes.

2. Social Security Benefits

Social Security offers ample benefit opportunities for couples that single peers aren’t able to leverage. For example, if one spouse’s estimates are more than twice as high as the other’s, it might make sense for both to eventually collect on the same spouse’s earnings record.

In that situation, the spouse with lower benefits can claim first based on their own earnings record then apply for spousal benefits later when the higher benefits spouse starts to collect.

The longer the higher benefit spouse waits to start collecting, the higher benefits will be for both spouses. Delaying the higher earning spouse’s benefits could also eventually increase the other spouse’s survivors benefits.

3. Reduced Insurance Costs

Whether happily riding solo or married, it’s a good idea to shop around for auto, homeowners, and similar insurance policies after you tie the knot. Married couples typically qualify for lower premiums than if they were to apply individually as single policyholders. According to Bankrate, the national annual average car insurance cost is $2,014 for one driver; the average cost of car insurance for a married couple’s policy is $1,898 for one vehicle. That’s almost 6% savings for married couples, which can add up significantly over time. This may not always be the case, though (more on that in the Cons section below).

4. Access to Workplace Benefits

If your spouse has access to certain benefits that you don’t have through your employer, you may be able to take advantage of them for yourself. If you’re out of the workforce altogether, your spouse could be your ticket to qualifying for key insurance coverages. Depending on the employer benefits of the company, it could be substantially less expensive to elect family coverage on your spouse’s employer health plan than if you shopped for your own coverage in the healthcare exchange marketplace.

Besides taking advantage of workplace benefits, you may also be able to find military benefits and perks from other organizations your spouse belongs to.

5. Individual Retirement Account Contributions

Married couples have additional opportunities to save for retirement not available to unmarried couples. Individual retirement accounts (IRAs) can provide tax benefits for those who contribute, but you must meet certain income requirements to be able to contribute to a Roth IRA.

While there’s no income limit for Traditional IRAs, you can’t deduct contributions if your income is too high. Married couples benefit over non-married peers when one spouse has little to no income while the other technically benefits from a higher limit than what they would have if single. What’s more, a spousal IRA lets a working spouse contribute to an IRA on behalf of their non-working spouse who earns little to no income.

In 2023, this means a working spouse could make a $6,500 contribution for themselves plus a $6,500 contribution to a spousal IRA. For couples 50 and older, an additional catch-up contribution of $1,000 can be made. Compound this maneuver over two decades of saving and the married couple could find themselves with a much larger retirement bucket versus their friends who elected to remain unmarried.

Five Financial Cons of Marriage

1. Higher Taxes

But wait, didn’t we say marriage could save on your taxes? The answer is, it depends. Filing jointly could potentially launch you into a higher tax bracket and cost you money. Plus, not all deductions are doubled when filing jointly versus single. It’s important to understand this calculation is on a case-by-case basis. Thankfully, you have professionals willing to dive into this equation for you. Talk with a tax advisor or financial planner to help you crunch the numbers.

2. Higher Student Loan Payments

If you or your partner are saddled with student loan debt, filing jointly could raise your student loan payments. On an income-based student loan repayment plan, your lender could use the other spouse’s higher income to justify raising your monthly payment. The only way lenders can get this information is by looking at a joint tax return, so you might want to consider filing separately or moving to a fixed payment plan until your student loans are paid off.

3. Higher Auto Insurance Premiums

If you live together, most insurers allow you to add a significant other to your car insurance policy, such as a boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé, or domestic partner. Auto insurance companies assume that married people who share a home also share cars. Therefore, they might automatically add your partner as an approved, covered driver on your vehicle. If you and your partner have similar driving records, your insurance provider won’t see adding them as higher risk. If your partner has a worse driving record than you, being married could raise your premiums.

With most insurers, unmarried couples can share a joint car insurance policy or add each other as listed drivers on separate policies, so check with your insurer to see if shared or separate coverage is best for you.

4. Negative Credit Impacts

Your spouse’s credit could negatively impact your loan terms. When you apply for joint loans as a married couple (mortgages, auto loans, etc.), lenders will look at the “lower middle” of your credit scores. For example, if your credit scores from the three credit bureaus are 730, 705, and 693 and your spouse’s are 598, 584, and 572, lenders will use 584. As a result, your partner’s imperfect credit could lead to less appealing loan terms (e.g. 9% versus 5%).

5. Divorce Statistics

According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40% to 50% of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher, with approximately 60% to 67% of second marriages ending in divorce. To protect yourself against these divorce odds and their consequential financial ramifications, consider learning about a prenuptial agreement and if one is right for you.

Weighing Your “I Do” or “I Don’t” Options

It’s never too early to start a conversation about money with your partner. After all, money is the number one thing couples disagree about, but that doesn’t have to be you.

Schedule a 15-minute conversation with an Abacus financial advisor who can help you understand how getting married can impact your wallet – for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer. (But hopefully not poorer!)

The Financial Pros and Cons of Marriage—Gay or Straight | Abacus Wealth Partners (2024)

FAQs

Is it more beneficial to be married or single financially? ›

Married people can qualify for higher income thresholds, tax deductions, and tax credits. Here's one powerful example: When you sell a home as a single person, there's a home sale exclusion of up to $250,000 available. For a couple, it goes up to $500,000.

How does marriage affect wealth? ›

Married respondents experience per person net worth increases of 77 percent over single respondents. Additionally, their wealth increases on average 16 percent for each year of marriage. Divorced respondents' wealth starts falling four years before divorce and they experi- ence an average wealth drop of 77 percent.

Why are married couples wealthier than unmarried couples? ›

Housing is one of the biggest factors in establishing a couple's wealth. Compared with single people and cohabiting couples, married couples hold a larger concentration of housing wealth, according to data from the St. Louis Fed.

What are advantages and disadvantages of marriage? ›

The pros and cons of marriage
  • Pro: 'formalising' relationship.
  • Con: old-fashioned institution.
  • Pro: financial security.
  • Con: divorce statistics.
  • Pro: excuse for a party.
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Who benefits financially from marriage? ›

Married couples often find it easier to qualify for loans and access better interest rates. Lenders may consider the combined income and creditworthiness of both partners when evaluating loan applications—although this isn't always beneficial if one partner has significant debt or bad credit.

What are the cons of getting married legally? ›

The disadvantages of marriage include high divorce rates, marriage dissatisfaction, and financial strain that may occur from overspending or the high costs of raising children.

Is it cheaper to stay single? ›

The cost of living alone

But when you add it all up, maintaining a single-person household doesn't cost exactly half of a two-person household. That's why it's called the singles tax — it costs more to be on your own than it would for you to share costs with a partner.

Is it better to be single or married according to the Bible? ›

1 Corinthians 7:8-32 New Living Translation (NLT) So I say to those who aren't married and to widows—it's better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust.

Are most millionaires married or single? ›

Single people are more often millionaires than married people. False— Most millionaires are married and stayed married.

Are married people better off financially? ›

The fact that many couples can leverage two incomes and combine and reduce many costs also helps improve their finances. So as a couple, you may be in a better position to maintain a solid financial footing or be on a good path toward getting there.

Who owns the money in a marriage? ›

Who owns marital property and to whom can they leave it? Married couples usually own most, if not all, of their valuable property together. If you want to leave everything to your spouse when you die, as many people do, you don't need to worry about what belongs to you and what belongs to your spouse.

Is it better financially to be single or married? ›

Married couples can save money by sharing household expenses and duties. Additionally, couples enjoy many benefits single people don't when it comes to insurance, retirement, and taxes. But being married carries some financial costs as well. For example, weddings are a significant expense for many couples.

Is marrying for money worth it? ›

Marrying rich: Does it lead to happiness? It's common to wonder whether money buys happiness. The availability of money can make some aspects of life easier; however, the wealthy are not immune to mental health concerns or relationship problems. In fact, money can make some areas of life more difficult.

Do men live longer when married? ›

Study after study shows that married people eat better and are less likely to smoke and drink excessively. All of these healthy behaviors help explain why married people tend to live longer. However, men married to women tend to see additional longevity benefits than women married to men, for several possible reasons.

What are the financial benefits of not being married? ›

Staying separate can sometimes help with student loans. You may save tens of thousands of dollars if you're pursuing income-based repayment, including pursuing Public Service Loan Forgiveness. This makes sense especially if you are with another high-income earner.

What are the pros and cons of financial services? ›

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What benefits will I lose if I get married? ›

Views: If you get Social Security disability or retirement benefits and you marry, your benefit will stay the same. However, other benefits such as SSI, Survivors, Divorced Spouses, and Child's benefits may be affected.

What happens financially when you marry someone? ›

Being legally married means your spouse's income (and debt) are now yours. If one of you runs up a huge credit card bill, you are both on the hook when the bill comes due. The good news is that many couples can cooperate and work together to address financial issues early in their marriage.

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