You are enough.
I believe that: that you are enough, just as you are, just as you were made to be.
But I want to be clear about what that means, and what it does not mean.
Because “you are enough” does not mean that you have been measured and considered and judged, and that you have finally earned the label of “enough.”
It doesn’t mean that you’ve worked long enough, tried hard enough, presented well enough. It’s simply who you are. The you that you are is enough.
You don’t have to be more, or do more, or buy more to be who you are meant to be.
That’s what I mean when I say you are enough.
You are enough does not mean that you are a final product, complete and finished, all done growing and changing and learning things forevermore.
You are enough does not mean that you are all-powerful and perfect, either.
You are enough does not mean that you are everything.
The pursuit of enough flies in the face of the pursuit of everything. Having a good grasp on “enough” means you don’t have to get everything, and you certainly don’t have to be everything.
You are enough does not mean that you have to be self-sufficient. It doesn’t mean that you don’t need anyone or anything else. It means you understand how much you do need, how small you are in this great grand universe — and that you don’t have to be even one inch bigger than that.
You are enough absolutely does not mean that you never need help. When you know you are enough, it’s easier to ask for help. It’s easier to admit your weaknesses. You know that your imperfections and your difficulties don’t reflect on your worth, because you are already enough, just as you are.
You are enough does not mean that you are flawless, or that you never make mistakes.
You know that you make mistakes. You know that I make mistakes. I make mistakes every single day. I am aware of my flaws before I even roll out of bed. Every day.
That doesn’t mean that my flaws are the truest, most important thing about me, it just means that I acknowledge them. I see them there. They exist. (Hi, flaws! YOU’RE MINE.)
If “being enough” means “being perfect,” then you are enough is just another reason to hide your true self. You hear that kind of “you are enough,” and you think: well! I know I’m not perfect, so either I’m not enough, or I have to hide who I really am.
No.
You are enough means that you were made to be you, as you are, on purpose.
It is no mistake that you are this person, in this place, at this time.
You are enough as you are, mess and all, beautiful and broken, showing up for your life every day. That’s all you have to be and all you have to do. You’re already enough.
You are enough means you can grow and change and continue to become, because you aren’t trying to prove yourself.
You’re just trying to be yourself.
You are enough means that you don’t have to strive to become more worthy, more valid, more acceptable, or more loved. You already are all of those things.
There are things you might want to be more of. More open. More honest. More true. More authentic. More free. More connected. More intentional. More purposeful. Those are all expressions of your enough-ness. They aren’t about changing yourself, they’re about being yourself.
You were enough before, you are enough now, and you will continue to be enough as you become more of who you were made to be. And believing that, when the world keeps whispering otherwise, is brave.
That’s what I mean when I say that you are enough.
And you are.
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The article eloquently addresses misconceptions surrounding the concept. It emphasizes that being enough does not imply a static, finished state, but rather an ongoing process of growth and self-discovery. This aligns with developmental psychology, which asserts that personal growth is a lifelong journey involving continuous adaptation and learning.
The distinction between being enough and being flawless resonates with research on self-perception and self-talk. Studies suggest that acknowledging and embracing one's imperfections can lead to greater psychological well-being. The article aptly points out that recognizing mistakes doesn't diminish one's worth but rather contributes to self-awareness and authenticity.
Furthermore, the article touches on the importance of vulnerability and seeking help, aligning with research in interpersonal relationships and social support. Studies consistently show that individuals who acknowledge their vulnerabilities and seek support experience improved mental health outcomes.
In conclusion, the wisdom embedded in the statement "you are enough" goes beyond mere positive affirmations. It reflects a profound understanding of human psychology, emphasizing self-acceptance, growth, and the courage to be authentic. As we navigate the complexities of life, recognizing and internalizing this truth can be a transformative journey toward genuine self-fulfillment.
Remember, you are enough, just as you are. And in sharing this message, you empower not only yourself but also those around you to embrace their enough-ness.
