Those of you in relationships, how much do you share with your partner? We understand that most relationships make you hella vulnerable and oversharing is very common but don’t always expect the reactions from your boyfriend to be pleasing. It is still a territory that you have to treat very carefully. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been sailing that boat for a while now, here are a few things that are OK to not share with your boyfriend. Don't worry, no one gets hurt.
- Weird fantasies that you may have
- Things you did with your <a href="https://www.bebeautiful.in/lifestyle/work-and-life/5-ways-to-avoid-texting-your-ex-boyfriend">ex boyfriend</a>
- Family problems that are a bit too personal
- Everyday spats with people
- Anything to do with money
- Things he does for you that you don’t like
- If you dislike his friends or family members
- Your difference in religious views
Weird fantasies that you may have
It’s okay to keep a few things to yourself. He doesn’t have to know everything. Because chances are, if he isn’t on the same page as you, he just might be super weirded out (or worse, judge you), especially if he’s not the experimental kind and prefers staying in his comfort zone.
Things you did with your <a href="https://www.bebeautiful.in/lifestyle/work-and-life/5-ways-to-avoid-texting-your-ex-boyfriend">ex boyfriend</a>
Well, duh! Don’t bruise the man’s ego by comparing him to another man. If he’s into you, he’s already trying to be the best version of himself, for you, so don’t make it harder for him. It’ll only make him back off! Besides, think about it... would you ever want him to tell you the things he did with his ex?
Family problems that are a bit too personal
Cribbing about daily arguments with mom and dad are okay, but don’t go spilling deets on major family feuds. Those things are personal and sensitive. You’d only be giving out an open invitation for judgement and later, wouldn't like it if he called your brother a douche (because only you are allowed to do that!)
Everyday spats with people
Speaking of cribbing, your SO could also do without knowing all about the tiffs you have with your friends and colleagues. Venting is a one-time thing, don’t make it a habit. Because he has a life of his own too, but you don't hear him whine as much, do you? Have better things to talk about!
Anything to do with money
Money has always been a dicey subject. Talking about how much you make or where it all goes could be tad sensitive especially if the two of you belong to different social stratas. So until you’ve reached that stage of maturity in your relationship, it’s best to keep money matters to yourself.
Things he does for you that you don’t like
Cliché birthday presents, random PDA, unrequired (good) advice, all may come with a good intent, but if you don’t like it, you just don’t! Now of course you can’t say it that way—not without breaking his poor little innocent heart—so either find a nicer way to say it (sugarcoat) or just suck it up! It isn’t the worst thing in the world.
If you dislike his friends or family members
This one’s a biggie. You do not mess with two people with a history. Be it friends or family, they came in before you did. So even though he loves you a whole lot, don’t think you have the liberty to mouth off anything that comes to your mind. They’re priority too, so be a little careful there, and keep mum.
Your difference in religious views
Just like money is sensitive, so are religious views. If the discussion does come up, express your part and keep it subtle (especially if they're different from his). Do not impose or try to rationalize because some things just do not intersect, and that's okay. You'd rather have healthier debates that lead to something more productive.
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