Co-sleeping: the best-kept secret of moms across the country. The controversy surrounding the practice has raised so much fuss that many parents feel the need to hide the fact that they co-sleep from other moms, their family and friends—even their pediatrician.
Despite the secrecy,recent studieshave shown that over 50% of parents are co-sleeping at least some of the time. So if co-sleeping is one of your little secrets, you’re definitely not alone.
For those of you who aren’t in on the secret, co-sleeping refers to sleeping in the same bed or on the same sleeping surface as your baby. It’s also referred to as bed-sharing, but not to be confused with room-sharing, which means sleeping in the same room as your baby butnotin the same bed.
The Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine support bed-sharing when it comes to breastfeeding. And last year, a study published in JAMA Pediatrics suggested that mothers who regularly bed-share with their infants are more likely to breastfeed for longer. Numerous other studies have reached the same conclusion. - Medical News Today
There are definitely pros and cons to the practice. Byeducatingyourself on the benefits and risks of co-sleeping, you can make the best decision for your family on where your baby sleeps.
Pros & cons of co-sleeping
Co sleeping Benefits | Co sleeping Risks |
Skin-to-skin Bed-sharing promotes skin-to-skin contact, which has been shown to reduce physiological stress in infants. | Increased risk of SIDS Studies show that room-sharing (but not bed-sharing or co-sleeping) reduces this risk of SIDS by as much as 50%. |
Bonding Many parents who bedshare feel that their emotional bond with their baby is strengthened. | Increased risk of suffocation Pillows, blankets, loose bedding, soft mattresses, etc. found on an adult bed increase the risk of suffocation and/or strangulation. |
Prolonged breastfeeding Studies show co-sleeping can help increase the duration of breastfeeding, as moms who co-sleep can more easily breastfeed at night, and are more likely to continue long term. | Potential injury With other people in the bed, there is a chance babies can be injured by parents that move or roll over in their sleep. |
Fall asleep faster Many parents co-sleep because it helps their baby fall asleep more easily and/or faster, which gives the parents better sleep as well. | Falling hazard Adult beds are usually higher off the ground or raised with no railings or barriers, which means an infant could potentially fall off the bed. |
Convenience Instead of waking up and leaving your own bed to go comfort or feed your baby, you can be right there for your baby. | Tight spaces Babies can get trapped in the spaces between the mattress and wall, headboard, or footboard |
Connect sleep cycles Your baby is soothed just by your presence, so it’s easier for them to stay asleep while transitioning between sleep cycles—which usually means fewer wakeups. | Harder transitions Transitioning from co-sleeping with parents to sleeping alone in a crib can cause separation anxiety. |
Emotional health Some studies suggest that co-sleeping babies have less anxiety, higher self-esteem, and are more comfortable with affection. | Becoming dependent Some studies suggest that co-sleeping can create a more dependent child whereas sleeping on their own can help to foster independence. |
Impacts sleep Some parents find they get to sleep longer and/or better when their child is in the bed with them because they don’t need to get out of bed as frequently to comfort their baby. | Impacts sleep Some studies have shown that parents wake up more frequently when co-sleeping versus having the baby sleep in their own bed. |
Physiology factors Some studies have shown that infants who bed-share have more stable temperatures, regular heart rhythms, and fewer long pauses in breathing compared to babies who sleep alone. | Less privacy When co-sleeping, your bed is no longer a space for just you and your partner. |
Peace of mind Some parents prefer co-sleeping because it allows them to closely monitor their baby throughout the night. | Peace of mind If your baby is sleeping in the same room, but not in the same bed, they can still be closely monitored without the increased risks. |
How do you feel about co-sleeping?
Your comments will help other Nested Bean parents make more confident decisions.We’d love to hear your thoughts, questions, or experience below.
Want to hear what the experts have to say? We rounded up some helpful information inAsk the Experts: Co-sleeping.
Other Co-Sleeping Resources
American Academy of Pediatrics: Sleep-Related Infant Deaths
Commonly asked questions: co-sleeping
- What age should you stop co-sleeping?
There are no strict rules about when you should stop co-sleeping with your baby or child - it all comes down to your family, your preferences, and your little one's wellbeing. You may want to stop and change to a different sleeping arrangement if you have other children and are short on space in the bedroom, or if you want to begin sleep training. However, you may find that changing the routine to having your baby or child sleep in their own room becomes trickier the older they are. For instance, a five-year-old who has slept in the family bed their whole life is more likely to show signs of separation anxiety or resistance than an 18 month old who has been following this routine for less time. If you have a child under 24 months who you are trying to transition into their own bed, you could try our Zen Sack, which is gently weighted to mimic your touch and help them self-soothe to sleep..
- Why do babies sleep better when bed sharing?
There are a few reasons for this. First of all, your touch (and presence in general) is biologically designed to be soothing for your baby - when you're closer, they're happier! Additionally, breastfeeding mothers may find that because baby doesn't have to wake up and cry from another room to tell you it's time for a feeding, they are easier to soothe to sleep after they've been fed if parents bed share..
- Is it okay for baby to sleep on my chest?
If you're awake, then absolutely! This is a fantastic way to bond with your baby, especially if you're able to have some skin to skin contact too. However, if you're asleep too, this can lead to an increased risk of SIDS - babies should always be put down to sleep on their back to avoid any risk of suffocation. .
- Why do babies like co sleeping in the same room or same bed?
Babies love sleeping close to you because they love you! Falling asleep with parents by their side makes baby feel comforted, often leading to more sleep for both you and your little one. Historically, babies have slept next to their mothers in the same bed or room - this follows the biological fact that there are psychological and physiological advantages to co sleeping. However, you still need to be careful when practicing co sleeping to avoid increasing baby's risk of SIDS, particularly if you are sharing the same sleep surface..
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